The first service member wounded in the Iraq War, Marine Sgt. Eric Alva, is coming out to help repeal the DADT policy
. This stood out for me.
I have tons and tons of friends that were in the military at the time who knew I was gay because I confided in them. Everybody had the same reaction: "What's the big deal?"
And that's why DADT doesn't work. Service members are supposed to--no, required
to, actually--report their buddies when they come out to them, but soldiers, sailors, airmen and Marines, for the most part, don't give a damn about what people do out of uniform. They only care about whether a person can carry their own weight and cover their comrades' asses (um, so to speak).